Practices that Harm the Lord’s Church: Favoritism Among Brethren by Willie A. Alvarenga

Another dangerous practice that, throughout the centuries, has seriously harmed the Lord’s church is favoritism among brethren. This has been a problem since the first century, even in the days of the early church. James, the Lord’s brother, addressed this issue directly in his letter. In chapter 2, he presents the relationship between faith and works, emphasizing that true faith must be accompanied by obedience. One of those works is avoiding partiality. The text clearly declares that our faith in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ must be without favoritism (James 2:1).

The expression “respect of persons” denotes partiality or unfair preferential treatment toward certain individuals. It involves valuing some over others based on external factors such as appearance, social status, or personal advantage (cf. James 2:2–4). This attitude is sinful because it contradicts the nature of God, who shows no partiality (Acts 10:34; Romans 2:11). Furthermore, it directly attacks the integrity of the Christian faith, since genuine faith that pleases God cannot exist where favoritism is practiced (James 2:9).

Favoritism is also sinful because it destroys the unity and brotherly love that God desires among His people. Our Lord Jesus Christ commanded: “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another” (John 13:34–35). This love must be sincere, without hypocrisy (Romans 12:9), and extended to all brethren without distinction (1 Peter 1:22). Christ Himself is the perfect example, as He showed compassion and love without discrimination. He reflected the character of the Father, who treats all with justice and fairness (Colossians 3:25).

Those who practice favoritism often fail to realize that their actions are evident. Scripture teaches: “By their fruits you will know them” (Matthew 7:16). Sin, even when one attempts to hide it, will eventually be revealed (Numbers 32:23). Favoritism exposes a lack of spiritual maturity and weak faith—qualities that must be corrected if one desires to inherit eternal life (2 Peter 1:5–11).

Additionally, it is important to remember that in the body of Christ there is no room for divisions or human preferences. Galatians 3:28 teaches that we are all one in Christ Jesus. Likewise, Ephesians 4:1–3 exhorts us to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Favoritism breaks that unity and causes stumbling among brethren (Romans 14:13).

What are some symptoms of favoritism?
(1) Preferring to associate only with a select group,
(2) speaking negatively about those outside that group (James 4:11),
(3) showing concern only for close companions,
(4) doing good only to those who return the favor (Luke 6:32–33),
(5) excluding or ignoring other brethren,
(6) displaying attitudes of contempt or superiority (Philippians 2:3),
(7) living a superficial faith without genuine Christian love.

Brethren, let us ask God to help us never open our hearts to the sin of favoritism. Let us remember that such an attitude is contrary to the gospel and can prevent us from attaining eternal life (Revelation 2:10). Let us practice true love, humility, and justice. Let us learn to love all our brethren in Christ without distinction, for this is what God desires from each one of us (Micah 6:8).

Challenges Young People Face Today: “Being Wise in Choosing the Person You Want to Marry” by Willie A. Alvarenga

Another important challenge young people face today is being very wise when choosing the person they want to marry. Sooner or later, most will seek someone to unite with in marriage and build a family in the future. However, the process of finding the right person is not easy, since it involves not only emotions, but also spiritual decisions that will affect one’s entire life. Therefore, every young person who plans to have a family should, from an early age, pray to God for the wisdom needed to make a prudent decision (James 1:5).

The Bible clearly teaches that our decisions must be guided by God and not merely by momentary feelings (Proverbs 3:5–6). Choosing a partner should not be based on physical appearance or temporary interests, but on solid spiritual principles (1 Samuel 16:7). The Christian young person must understand that marriage is a sacred union established by God (Genesis 2:24) and, therefore, requires a wise and well-thought-out decision.

Searching for a marriage partner is a serious task because it involves the following:

  1. Seeking someone who will help me reach heaven one day (Matthew 6:33).
  2. Seeking someone who truly and sincerely loves me (1 Corinthians 13:4–7).
  3. Seeking someone who cares for me in good times and in bad (Ecclesiastes 4:9–12).
  4. Seeking someone who loves God above all things (Matthew 22:37).
  5. Seeking someone who deeply values Christ’s sacrifice on the cross (Ephesians 5:25).
  6. Seeking someone who desires to build a family according to God’s will (Psalm 127:1).
  7. Seeking someone who does not love the world or the things in it (1 John 2:15–17).
  8. Seeking someone who will not become a stumbling block to my spirituality (1 Corinthians 15:33).
  9. Seeking someone willing to fulfill their role in the home: to provide [man] and to care for the home [woman] (1 Timothy 5:8; Titus 2:4–5).
  10. Seeking someone who desires to grow spiritually with me (2 Peter 3:18).

It is also important to remember that patience is key in this process. Such an important decision should not be rushed (Ecclesiastes 3:1). Waiting on God’s timing will always bring better results (Psalm 37:4–5).

Finding a person with these qualities is not only possible, but also attainable if the young person practices spiritual wisdom, studies God’s Word consistently, and maintains a life of prayer. When God guides the decision, the result will be a relationship that not only brings happiness in this life, but also helps both individuals attain eternal life.