CHALLENGES FACING YOUNG PEOPLE: Obeying the Gospel of Christ by Willie A. Alvarenga

Another important challenge young people face today is obeying the Gospel of Christ. There are young people within the Lord’s church who have still not given their lives to Christ. Their parents are already Christians, and possibly some of their siblings and friends are Christians as well, but they have not yet made the personal decision to obey the Gospel.

This is a very serious challenge because we are dealing with a matter of eternal life. We are talking about our relationship with God, the forgiveness of our sins, and where we will spend eternity.

Salvation Must Be a Personal Decision

Young person, you must understand that the fact that your parents are Christians does not automatically mean that you are a Christian. Nor does growing up attending the services of the church mean that you have already obeyed the Gospel. Every person must make his or her own decision before God.

Ezekiel 18:20 teaches this principle:

“The soul who sins shall die…”

God holds each person responsible for his or her own decisions.

Joshua also presented this personal responsibility when he said:

“Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve…” (Josh. 24:15).

Your father cannot obey the Gospel for you.

Your mother cannot obey the Gospel for you.

Your siblings cannot obey the Gospel for you.

Your friends cannot obey the Gospel for you.

You must make that decision.

We Must Not Take Salvation Lightly

It is sad to observe that some young people consider obeying the Gospel something that can wait. Some think:

“I am still young.”

“I will obey later.”

“First I want to enjoy my youth.”

“I still have many years ahead of me.”

But no one is guaranteed tomorrow.

James 4:14 reminds us:

“…whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away.”

Proverbs 27:1 says:

“Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth.”

Young person, your physical life is not guaranteed. You do not know how long God will allow you to live. For this reason, we must not play with our souls or postpone such an important decision.

The question should not be:

“When do I want to obey?”

The question should be:

“What must I do to be right with God?”

The Gospel Is God’s Power to Save

Paul wrote:

“For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes…” (Rom. 1:16).

The Gospel is not simply religious information. It is the message God has chosen to bring us to salvation through Christ.

Therefore, Jesus commanded:

“Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. He who believes and is baptized will be saved…” (Mark 16:15–16).

The Gospel must be heard, believed, and obeyed.

Paul taught that God will bring:

“…taking vengeance on those who do not know God, and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ” (2 Thess. 1:8).

This demonstrates the seriousness of the matter. Failing to obey the Gospel is not an insignificant decision.

What Does It Mean to Obey the Gospel?

The Gospel is the good news concerning the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ (1 Cor. 15:1–4). A person must respond to this message with faith and obedience.

Jesus said:

“…if you do not believe that I am He, you will die in your sins” (John 8:24).

A person must hear the Word of God, because:

“So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God” (Rom. 10:17).

He must believe in Christ (John 8:24), repent of his sins (Acts 2:38), confess his faith in Christ (Rom. 10:9–10), be baptized for the forgiveness of his sins (Acts 2:38; Acts 22:16; Mark 16:16), and live faithfully in Christ (1 Cor. 15:58; Rev. 2:10).

Biblical baptism is not an outward act or a family tradition. It is part of the obedient response to the Gospel.

Peter said:

“Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins…” (Acts 2:38).

Ananias told Saul:

“And now why are you waiting? Arise and be baptized, and wash away your sins, calling on the name of the Lord” (Acts 22:16).

Obeying the Gospel Produces Great Blessings

When a person obeys the Gospel of Christ, he enters into a special relationship with God and enjoys great spiritual blessings.

1. Forgiveness of sins — Ephesians 1:7

“In whom we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace.”

2. Reconciliation with God — Ephesians 2:13–16

Through Christ, we can be reconciled to God and have peace with Him.

3. A new life in Christ — Romans 6:4; 2 Corinthians 5:17

Baptism represents our death to sin and our resurrection to a new life.

4. Sanctification — Romans 6:22

We can now live a life set apart for God, producing fruit that leads to sanctification.

5. Justification — Romans 5:1–2

“Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.”

6. The hope of eternal life — 1 John 5:11

“And this is the testimony: that God has given us eternal life, and this life is in His Son.”

7. The opportunity to demonstrate our love for Christ — John 14:15

Jesus said:

“If you love Me, keep My commandments.”

True obedience comes from a heart that loves Christ.

Young Person, Do Not Postpone Your Decision

Perhaps you are still thinking:

“Someday I will do it.”

But who guarantees that you will have that “someday”?

Perhaps your parents have spoken to you many times about salvation. Perhaps you have heard numerous sermons about God’s plan to save man.

Now the decision is in your hands.

God has given you the opportunity to hear His Word. He has given you the ability to understand it. He has given you the freedom to make a decision.

What will you do with that opportunity?

Hebrews 2:3 asks:

“How shall we escape if we neglect so great a salvation?”

Salvation is not something we should treat with indifference.

Young person, obeying the Gospel of Christ is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. Do not do it simply because your parents are Christians. Do not do it only because your friends have done so. Do it because you love God, recognize your need for salvation, and desire to obey Christ.

Do not allow peer pressure, the desire to enjoy the world, fear, or indifference to keep you from obeying the Lord.

Remember the words of Jesus:

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness…” (Matt. 6:33).

And remember also:

“Behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation” (2 Cor. 6:2).

Young person, do not postpone what you need to do today.

Hear the Gospel.

Believe in Christ.

Repent of your sins.

Confess your faith in Christ.

Obey the Lord in baptism.

Begin a new life of faithfulness to God.

Your youth is a beautiful gift from God. Use it to serve Him and honor Him.

“Remember now your Creator in the days of your youth…” (Eccl. 12:1).

The best decision a young person can make is to give his or her life to Christ and remain faithful to Him until the end.

PRACTICES THAT HARM THE LORD’S CHURCH: Preachers Who Do Not Use Their Time Wisely in the Work of the Lord by Willie A. Alvarenga

Another harmful practice that we can add to the list, and one that has seriously affected the Lord’s church, is that of preachers who do not use their time wisely in the work of the Lord.

Several years ago, I heard a preacher say the following: “It is a matter of conscience for a preacher not to get up early to work in the Lord’s work.” I have tried to find the original source of this statement, but up to this point I have not been able to identify with certainty who originally said it. For this reason, I do not wish to attribute it to any preacher without sufficient evidence. Nevertheless, the principle that this statement attempts to communicate deserves our serious consideration.

I am not saying that the Bible establishes a specific time at which every preacher must get up each morning. Nor am I saying that resting is sinful. Rest is necessary, and there are legitimate times to rest. Our Lord Jesus Christ Himself took time to rest (Mark 6:31). Therefore, the problem is not simply getting up late; the problem is negligence, laziness, lack of discipline, and the wasting of the time that God has given us to serve Him.

A preacher who receives financial support from the church to devote his time to the ministry must remember that this privilege comes with a great responsibility. If the congregation trusts him to devote his time to the study of the Word, the preaching of the Gospel, teaching, evangelism, visitation, counseling, and the edification of the saints, then he must strive to fulfill these responsibilities with diligence, integrity, and excellence.

The Danger of a Lack of Supervision

In some congregations, preachers work without close supervision from the elders. This does not mean that elders should become supervisors of every minute of the preacher’s day. Rather, it means that there should be a healthy relationship of trust, accountability, and communication between the elders and the preacher.

When there is no good supervision, sadly, some may take advantage of that freedom to reduce their level of work. There are preachers who get up very late, not because they have been working diligently until late at night, but simply because they have not developed proper discipline in managing their time.

Others allow a large portion of their day to be consumed by activities that have nothing to do with the responsibilities they accepted when they began working with a congregation as full-time preachers.

Some spend too much time on social media. Others devote excessive hours to entertainment, sports, video games, or other personal activities. Some spend more time at the gym than studying the Word of God. Others spend a large portion of the day taking care of personal matters that could be handled at another time. And, sadly, there are those who come to the pulpit constantly using sermons prepared by other people because they themselves have not devoted the necessary time to study and preparation.

This is especially concerning because a preacher was not called simply to occupy a pulpit, but to be a diligent student of the Word and a devoted servant of Christ.

Paul told Timothy:

“Be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a worker who does not need to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth” (2 Tim. 2:15).

The word “worker” reminds us that ministry requires work. And the command to “be diligent” demands effort, discipline, and dedication.

When Time Is Not Managed Properly

When a preacher does not use his time wisely, eventually there will not be enough time to fulfill important ministry responsibilities.

There will not be enough time to:

  • deeply study the Word of God;
  • prepare good sermons;
  • prepare Biblical classes;
  • evangelize;
  • visit members;
  • study the Bible with non-Christians;
  • encourage the weak;
  • counsel families;
  • train other brethren to serve;
  • plan spiritual activities;
  • develop special classes for the spiritual growth of the congregation;
  • write Biblical material;
  • prepare studies for young people;
  • visit the sick;
  • work with new converts;
  • strengthen weak members;
  • and fulfill the many other responsibilities that are part of the work of an evangelist.

The problem is that lost time cannot be recovered.

Therefore, Paul exhorted the Christians in Ephesus:

“See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil” (Eph. 5:15–16).

Although this text was not addressed exclusively to preachers, it certainly contains a principle that every servant of God should take seriously. The Christian must learn to use wisely the time that God has given him.

Paul: An Excellent Example of Diligence

The New Testament gives us example after example of men who took their service to the Lord very seriously. One of the greatest examples is the apostle Paul.

In 1 Corinthians 15:10, Paul wrote:

“But by the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace toward me was not in vain; but I labored more abundantly than they all, yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.”

Paul did not use the grace of God as an excuse to work less. The grace of God produced in him a greater desire to work for the Lord.

In 1 Corinthians 15:58, he exhorted:

“Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.”

Notice some important words:

“Steadfast.”
“Immovable.”
“Abounding.”
“Always.”
“Labor.”

These words hardly describe a person who is lazy or negligent in the service of the Lord.

Paul also told the elders of Ephesus:

“Therefore watch, and remember that for three years I did not cease to warn everyone night and day with tears” (Acts 20:31).

What an example of diligence!

Paul did not merely preach from a pulpit. He taught publicly and from house to house (Acts 20:20). He preached, taught, visited, exhorted, evangelized, and strengthened the brethren.

In Acts 20:24, we find one of the most powerful statements concerning his priorities:

“But none of these things move me; nor do I count my life dear to myself, so that I may finish my race with joy, and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify to the gospel of the grace of God.”

Paul had a goal: to faithfully finish the ministry that Christ had entrusted to him.

At the end of his life, he was able to say:

“I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith” (2 Tim. 4:7).

Paul did not merely begin well; he finished well.

Paul Took Advantage of Opportunities

Colossians 4:5 contains another important principle:

“Walk in wisdom toward those who are outside, redeeming the time.”

Paul understood that opportunities to teach and evangelize were precious. Therefore, he exhorted Christians to take advantage of them.

In 2 Timothy 4:2, he gave Timothy a solemn responsibility:

“Preach the word! Be ready in season and out of season. Convince, rebuke, exhort, with all longsuffering and teaching.”

The faithful preacher does not work only when he feels like working. His commitment is to Christ, not simply to his mood or feelings.

Of course, this does not mean that a preacher can never rest, spend time with his family, exercise, or take care of personal matters. All of these things can have a proper place. The point is that none of these activities should become an excuse for neglecting the spiritual responsibilities that God has placed before us.

Jesus: Our Supreme Example of Diligence

Above Paul, we find our Lord Jesus Christ, who is our Supreme example of diligent service.

Jesus said:

“I must work the works of Him who sent Me while it is day; the night is coming when no one can work” (John 9:4).

What a powerful perspective concerning time!

Jesus understood that there was a work He needed to accomplish and that opportunities would not last forever.

On another occasion, His disciples encouraged Him to eat, but Jesus responded:

“My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me, and to finish His work” (John 4:34).

Jesus had a deep conviction concerning the mission He had received from the Father.

Mark 3:20 shows us just how demanding His ministry could become:

“Then the multitude came together again, so that they could not so much as eat bread.”

Nevertheless, Jesus also understood the need for rest and to withdraw at times to rest (Mark 6:31). This teaches us something important: diligence does not mean irresponsibility toward our bodies or our families; it means wisely managing our time in order to fulfill the work God has entrusted to us.

The Preacher Must Be a Diligent Student

One of the greatest tragedies occurs when a preacher stops studying because he thinks he already knows enough.

Experience is valuable, but experience never replaces study.

Paul told Timothy:

“Meditate on these things; give yourself entirely to them, that your progress may be evident to all. Take heed to yourself and to the doctrine. Continue in them…” (1 Tim. 4:15–16).

The preacher must continue to grow.

He must study the Biblical text.
He must study its context.
He must carefully examine the words.
He must understand the historical and cultural context.
He must compare Scripture with Scripture.
He must carefully prepare his lessons.
He must make sure that what he preaches is truly the Word of God.

It is not right for a preacher to spend hours in entertainment and then, at the last minute, hurriedly prepare the sermon he will present before the church.

The pulpit deserves our preparation. Souls deserve our preparation. The Word of God deserves our preparation. And God deserves our best effort.

It Is Not Simply About Working More, but About Working Wisely

We must also maintain balance. A preacher can be busy all day and yet not be doing the things he truly needs to do.

Therefore, it is not simply a matter of saying:

“I need to work more hours.”

Rather, we should ask ourselves:

Am I using wisely the hours God has given me?

Am I studying?
Am I evangelizing?
Am I visiting?
Am I preparing sermons?
Am I strengthening the members?
Am I training others?
Am I looking for opportunities to teach?
Am I helping the congregation grow spiritually?
Am I responsibly fulfilling that for which I was hired?

These are questions every preacher should ask himself periodically.

The Danger of Becoming a Lazy Preacher

Laziness is repeatedly condemned in Scripture (Prov. 6:6–11; 13:4; 24:30–34). Although these passages do not specifically address preachers, the principles concerning diligence and work certainly apply.

The preacher must be careful not to develop a mentality of comfort.

When the church financially supports a man so that he can devote his time to the ministry, it is not simply paying him to preach two or three sermons each week. The ministry involves much more.

The preacher must be a worker of the Lord.

He must remember Paul’s words:

“And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men” (Col. 3:23).

If we preach, we should preach as unto the Lord.
If we study, we should study as unto the Lord.
If we evangelize, we should evangelize as unto the Lord.
If we visit, we should visit as unto the Lord.
If we teach, we should teach as unto the Lord.

Brethren preachers, our time is a gift from God, and our opportunity to serve Him will not last forever.

We do not know how many years we will have to preach. We do not know how many more opportunities we will have to teach someone the Gospel. We do not know how many more souls we will be able to reach. Therefore, we must take advantage of every opportunity God places before us.

Paul said:

“For if I preach the gospel, I have nothing to boast of, for necessity is laid upon me; yes, woe is me if I do not preach the gospel!” (1 Cor. 9:16).

That should be the spirit of every faithful preacher.

Let us not waste our time.

Let us not waste our opportunities.

Let us not waste the privilege of preaching the Gospel.

Let us not allow entertainment, comfort, laziness, or personal interests to occupy the place that belongs to the work of the Lord.

Let us imitate Paul, who labored abundantly (1 Cor. 15:10), redeemed the time (Eph. 5:16), taught night and day (Acts 20:31), and considered it a privilege to finish the ministry he had received from the Lord (Acts 20:24).

Above all, let us imitate our Lord Jesus Christ, who said:

“I must work the works of Him who sent Me while it is day” (John 9:4).

May we never reach the end of our ministry regretting the time we wasted, the opportunities we allowed to pass, or the souls we could have reached.

Rather, may we one day be able to say with Paul:

“I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith” (2 Tim. 4:7).

God and His church deserve our best and greatest effort.

PRACTICES THAT HARM THE LORD’S CHURCH: The Preaching of False Doctrine by Willie A. Alvarenga

Another harmful practice that we can add to the list, and one that has seriously affected the Lord’s church throughout the centuries, is the preaching of false doctrine. Since the days of the New Testament, congregations have suffered greatly because of men who have shown no respect for the sound teaching revealed by God. The apostle Paul repeatedly warned about the danger of those who would introduce strange doctrines and lead disciples away from the truth (Acts 20:28–30).

When we speak of false doctrine, we are referring to any teaching that conflicts with God’s will as revealed in the Scriptures. Any doctrine that contradicts the divine message, alters the plan of salvation, or disregards the authority of God’s Word must be considered false doctrine (Galatians 1:6–9).

False doctrine will always harm the church because it prevents believers from being nourished by the pure message of the gospel. Instead of edifying the soul and strengthening faith, it produces confusion, division, and separation from God. Paul taught that “all Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16–17). Whenever men replace divine truth with human opinions, the church suffers serious spiritual consequences.

There are people who teach error because they have not properly studied the Scriptures. They have not learned the fundamental principles of Biblical interpretation and, therefore, teach what they do not fully understand. Paul exhorted Timothy: “Be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a worker who does not need to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth” (2 Timothy 2:15).

Sadly, there are also those who teach false doctrine even while knowing that it contradicts God’s Word. Some simply repeat the teachings of favorite preachers, relatives, or friends, placing human loyalty above divine authority. Jesus condemned this attitude when He said, “In vain they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men” (Matthew 15:9).

Therefore, an important question arises: How does false doctrine harm the Lord’s church? Let us consider several answers.

1. False doctrine contradicts the command to teach only sound doctrine.

Paul commanded, “But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine” (Titus 2:1). He also exhorted Timothy to hold fast “the pattern of sound words” (2 Timothy 1:13). God has never authorized the teaching of error.

2. False doctrine leads people down the wrong path.

Jesus declared, “And if the blind leads the blind, both will fall into a ditch” (Matthew 15:14). False teachers lead souls away from the path of salvation.

3. False doctrine deceives sincere and unsuspecting people.

Romans 16:17–18 teaches that false teachers deceive others “by smooth words and flattering speech.” Peter also warned that many would follow their destructive ways (2 Peter 2:1–2).

4. False doctrine replaces the preaching of truth.

Peter wrote, “If anyone speaks, let him speak as the oracles of God” (1 Peter 4:11). When error occupies the pulpit, the church ceases to hear the message that saves.

5. False doctrine draws believers away from faithfulness to God.

Paul rebuked the Galatians because they were abandoning the true gospel (Galatians 1:6–9). Likewise, Hymenaeus and Philetus overthrew the faith of some through their false teachings (2 Timothy 2:16–18).

6. False doctrine hinders spiritual growth.

God established spiritual leaders to equip the saints and bring them to maturity (Ephesians 4:11–16). False doctrine produces spiritual immaturity and causes Christians to be “tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine.”

7. False doctrine produces confusion and division.

“For God is not the author of confusion but of peace” (1 Corinthians 14:33). False teachings generate disputes, divisions, and conflicts within the congregation (Romans 16:17).

8. False doctrine separates man from God.

John wrote, “Whoever transgresses and does not abide in the doctrine of Christ does not have God” (2 John 9). Doctrinal error breaks fellowship with the Father and the Son.

9. False doctrine brings condemnation upon those who teach it.

Peter affirmed that false teachers would introduce destructive heresies and bring swift destruction upon themselves (2 Peter 2:1–3). James also warned that teachers will receive a stricter judgment (James 3:1).

10. False doctrine contaminates the entire congregation.

Paul declared, “A little leaven leavens the whole lump” (Galatians 5:9). Doctrinal error rarely remains isolated; in time, it affects the entire church.

11. False doctrine encourages apostasy.

The Holy Spirit announced that “in latter times some will depart from the faith” (1 Timothy 4:1). Apostasy always begins when people abandon the revealed truth.

12. False doctrine hardens the heart and produces resistance to the truth.

Paul spoke of those who “will not endure sound doctrine” and will seek teachers according to their own desires (2 Timothy 4:3–4). Error leads people to reject the will of God.

13. False doctrine destroys the spiritual unity of the church.

Christ prayed that His disciples might be one (John 17:20–21). True unity can exist only when all remain in the same doctrine (Ephesians 4:4–6).

14. False doctrine dishonors the name of Christ.

Peter taught that because of false teachers, “the way of truth will be blasphemed” (2 Peter 2:2). The world observes religious divisions and errors and comes to despise the gospel.

Churches that tolerate false doctrine are in serious spiritual danger. Numerical growth alone does not constitute evidence of divine approval. A congregation may grow in numbers while simultaneously drifting away from the revealed truth. Faithfulness to God must always take precedence over popularity and apparent success.

The only way to maintain a pure and obedient church is through the faithful and consistent exposition of God’s Word. Christians must develop a deep respect for the authority of Scripture and carefully examine every teaching in the light of the Bible (Acts 17:11).

Elders have the responsibility to watch over the spiritual well-being of the flock and to protect it from false teachers (Acts 20:28–31; Titus 1:9). Likewise, the congregation must insist that only the whole counsel of God be preached from the pulpit (Acts 20:27).

May each one of us imitate the attitude of the psalmist who declared, “The entirety of Your word is truth” (Psalm 119:160). May our heavenly Father help us always to love, respect, and defend the sound doctrine revealed in His holy Word.

CHALLENGES YOUNG PEOPLE FACE: Beginning to Ask God for a Faithful Husband or Wife by Willie A. Alvarenga

One of the most important challenges that young Christians face today is beginning, from an early age, to ask God for a faithful husband or wife. Although many young people invest time thinking about their studies, their professional careers, and their personal goals, they must also remember that one of the most important decisions of their lives will be choosing the person with whom they will spend the rest of their days.

Marriage is a divine institution established by God from the beginning of creation. Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” God designed marriage to be a permanent, holy, and blessed relationship.

For this reason, young people must prepare themselves spiritually for this important commitment.

HOW TO PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE

Preparation for marriage does not begin on the day of the engagement or on the wedding day. It begins during youth.

1. Develop a strong relationship with God

Before you can love another person, you must learn to love God above all things.

Jesus taught:

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37).

A young person who loves God will be better prepared to love his or her future spouse.

2. Learn to pray continually

Young Christians must ask God for wisdom to make the right decisions.

James wrote:

“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God” (James 1:5).

Prayer should include requests such as:

  • Lord, help me become a better person
  • Give me wisdom to choose wisely
  • Prepare my heart for marriage
  • Help me find a faithful person
  • Always guide me in the right path

3. Strengthen your Christian character

Paul exhorted Timothy:

“Be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, and in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12).

Marriage requires:

  • Responsibility
  • Patience
  • Self-control
  • Humility
  • Love
  • Commitment
  • Sacrifice

4. Learn Biblical principles about marriage

Many marriages fail because people do not understand what God teaches about the home.

Young people should study passages such as:

  • Genesis 2:24
  • Proverbs 31
  • Ephesians 5:22–33
  • Colossians 3:18–19
  • 1 Peter 3:1–7

HOW TO CHOOSE WISELY

Modern society teaches that physical appearance, money, and popularity are the most important qualities. The Bible teaches something completely different.

1. Look for someone who loves God

Your priority should be to find someone who puts God first.

Matthew 6:33 says:

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness.”

2. Look for a faithful and obedient person

Your future husband or wife should be someone who is:

  • Faithful to God (Revelation 2:10)
  • Obedient to His Word (John 14:15)
  • Committed to the church (Hebrews 10:24–25)
  • Humble (Philippians 2:3)
  • Patient and kind (Colossians 3:12–14)

Proverbs 31:30 states:

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”

3. Seek wise counsel

Proverbs 11:14 says:

“In the multitude of counselors there is safety.”

Parents, elders, and mature Christians can provide valuable guidance.

4. Learn from Biblical examples

Positive examples

Isaac and Rebekah (Genesis 24): a relationship founded on prayer and trust in God.

Aquila and Priscilla (Acts 18:1–3): a marriage devoted to serving the Lord.

Negative examples

Samson (Judges 14:1–3): he made impulsive decisions based on outward appearance.

Solomon (1 Kings 11:1–4): he allowed the wrong people to turn his heart away from God.

HOW TO MAINTAIN A HAPPY MARRIAGE ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE

Choosing wisely is important, but maintaining a strong marriage requires continual effort.

1. Put God at the center of your home

Ecclesiastes 4:12 declares:

“A threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

A strong marriage consists of the husband, the wife, and God.

2. Practice Biblical love

Paul wrote:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church” (Ephesians 5:25).

Biblical love involves:

  • Patience
  • Sacrifice
  • Forgiveness
  • Respect
  • Service

First Corinthians 13:4–8 describes true love.

3. Practice communication

Proverbs 15:1 says:

“A soft answer turns away wrath.”

Husbands and wives must learn to communicate with respect, honesty, and love.

4. Pray together

Prayer strengthens the marriage relationship.

Philippians 4:6 says:

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.”

5. Be faithful to one another

Hebrews 13:4 teaches:

“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled.”

Faithfulness is essential to marital happiness.

6. Practice forgiveness

Colossians 3:13 says:

“Bearing with one another, and forgiving one another.”

No marriage is perfect; therefore, forgiveness must be an essential part of the Christian home.

Young Christians must begin early in life to ask God for a faithful husband or wife. They must prepare spiritually, choose wisely, and strive to maintain a Christ-centered marriage.

May every young person remember the words of the psalmist:

“Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass” (Psalm 37:5).

If we put God first, we will be able to enjoy strong marriages, happy homes, and families that glorify His name.